Long Distance Relationships

What comes to mind when you hear somebody say they’re in a long distance relationship?. Bravery?. Stupidity?. What?. A long distance relationship for those who don’t know is the kind of relationship that involves 2 different people living in different countries or different states or in the same state but different cities. Like an actual real relationship but with both people miles and miles away from each other. Some people would say long distance relationships suck!. Some would say that being so apart from that person you care so much about is a sign that the relationship is real and strong and true. While everybody has their different opinions about long distance relationships, the honest truth is,  a long distance relationship is just a fantasy waiting to be made reality.

Falling for somebody so far away, making different promises to them, hoping that one day fate would make you two meet, not being entirely sure if you will be attracted to them when you finally see them, basically holding on to what you feel for them, etc. All that and more are just some of the truth surrounding long distance relationships. Different questions pop up on both ends. Are they being faithful to me as I to them?, do they feel the same way?, what if we don’t connect face to face?, Am I making a mistake?, etc.

As much as there is nothing wrong with long distance relationships, there is everything wrong with it. First, before even going into a long distance relationship, consider the distance. I mean, consider the distance, the fact that you won’t able to see them as often as you would/might like to. Then think about if you are the type to stay away too long from that person whom you care so much about. Then think about if you could afford going to visit/meet them or sponsor them coming to visit/meet you. Then think about the whole thing; is it worth it?, does it make you happy?, are you willing to put your relationship life on hold for somebody miles away from you whom you’re not even entirely sure about?, etc.

It’s a lot of work this long distance relationship thingy. Sometimes, you just want to cuddle on those cold days or nights, sometimes you just want to gist and share stories or jokes or experiences, sometimes you just want to hang out with them and do fun stuff together, sometimes you just want to chill in and watch an interesting or boring movie together, sometimes you just want to do a lot of stuff face to face together with that person. Oh wait! what about those days when you yearn for the softness of a woman or for the strong grip of a man?. It can be hard!, right?.

In recent times, the advancement of technology has made it somewhat easy. With the likes of Skype and other social media platform features, it doesn’t feel that much of a long distance relationship. Communication and keeping in touch is made easy. You can basically bring that person along through your daily activities. Social media is a consolation for the distance…but for how long?. How long till one of you caves?. How long till one of you can’t do it anymore?. How long till one of you bows out?.

If you’re in a long distance relationship, hold on. But if you ever feel like you couldn’t do it anymore, the other person deserves every right to know. Don’t leave them hanging. Don’t go AWOL on them. Don’t hurt them by not giving them closure. If you’re thinking of or considering starting a long distance relationship with that person whom you’ve grown to care and feel something strong for, then go ahead. It’s a beautiful thing. You should. I personally think that, feelings that stand the test of time and distance and all the challenges that come with not being right next to each other are the strongest.