You've been in a relationship and have been certain about the other person's feelings for you but lately they start to act weird or different from how they were towards you but you can't tell if their feelings for you still exists or if you're just wasting your time in their life. You try to make conversation but it doesn't seem to pinpoint what's happening for sure because the other person either doesn't wanna talk back, tells you what you wanna hear or just turns the conversation into a fight or an argument which might unfortunately lead to a break up between you two. The other person may have fallen out of love with you and lost their feelings for you but they don't know how to tell you without hurting you. Well, if this is the present situation in your relationship, here are 40 ways you can tell the other person doesn't love you or has stopped loving you:
1. There is innate disinterest when it comes to the meager, silly details about your life.
2. There is a lack of desire to make things better between you two.
3. Petty fights are picked without concern for what they’ll do to your relationship as a whole.
4. They buy you things that you don’t like but they do.
5. They try to change you into someone they want you to be.
6. They talk about the future more than they do the present.
7. They don’t call you regularly, or keep in touch at all.
8. Their parents don’t know about you.
9. They actually say they aren’t so sure.
10. Your interests may overlap, but your future goals clearly don’t.
11. And there seems to be no interest in compromising on those future goals.
12. You hear them say “well, I still want to see what’s out there” a lot.
13. And then they act on that.
14. They very clearly don’t trust you.
15. You can’t talk to them about things that are important to you.
16. You can’t talk to them about issues in the relationship without it turning into a huge fight.
17. You don’t put a lot of effort into making your lives coincide.
18. They don’t remember the little details (your birthday, favorite color, etc.)
19. They insult you in public, even if it seems like a joke.
20. Or they put you down, ever.
21. They fight dirty.
22. They imply that you need to lose weight or change your appearance somehow.
23. Sex is a one-way street, if you know what I mean.
24. They aren’t willing to reciprocate what you do for them.
25. They keep your relationship a secret.
26. They want to go out without you more than they want to be with you.
27. They are easily annoyed by you.
28. They don’t care to apologize when they were in the wrong.
29. Because they think you were always the one in the wrong.
30. If you ask them why they love you, they give you reasons that are anything other than “I just do.”
31. They don’t give you little signs of physical affection now and again.
32. They act like your pal more than your lover (not always a bad thing as long as the latter isn’t obsolete).
33. Conversations take work.
34. You can see in their eyes that they aren’t innately crazy about you.
35. They aren’t faithful.
36. They are more interested in the possibilities than the realities.
37. They are disrespectful toward your family or friends.
38. They make fun of things that are very important to you.
39. They make fun of you, and not in the playful flirtatious way.
40. They don’t commit.
How you react depends on if your feelings for the other person still lingers or has withered away too. Sometimes, the other person may be going through stuff they can't really talk about because they feel you don't have a solution. Apply wisdom when handling this. Don't become a nag because this only acceralates and escalates everything making it worse and trust me, you don't want that to happen especially if you too haven't given up. Try striking a conversation with an old memory that made you two literally laugh out loud. Hopefully, the other person laughs and you take it from there, entering them gradually until they let loose and open up. Two things are involved:
If they still have a drop of feeling for you left, they'll respond and become an open book. In this case, just lend your ear and listen. Of course they'll expect a response but not one that reeks of "you should have this" "you should have that" or "I told you so". If you truly do not have anything to say, a hug and a reassuring "everything is gonna be ok" will truly go a long way.
On the other hand, if they no longer feel nothing for you, expect a cold-shoulder comeback and if this happens, don't push. They've obviously gone stone-cold on anything you-related. Just let them be. Leave them be. Pressing further will only hurt you and not hurt them because to them, you don't mean anything anymore.
Relationships can be sweet or sour or both, but any relationship that will work will take effort from both parties involved.
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